Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships

Games People Play is a foundational text in transactional analysis (TA) that reveals the hidden scripts underlying everyday interactions. Berne introduces the Parent, Adult, and Child ego states and explores how miscommunications arise when people unconsciously adopt roles or follow psychological “games.” These games are patterned behaviours with predictable outcomes, often leading to conflict or dissatisfaction.

With clarity and wit, Berne presents dozens of social games such as “Why Don’t You – Yes But” and “Ain’t It Awful,” unpacking their covert motives and emotional payoffs. The book encourages readers to recognise these patterns and return to authentic, Adult-level interactions. For coaches, it provides language and structure for exploring client dynamics in relationships and decision-making.

Engaging and accessible, the book’s enduring appeal lies in its simple yet profound insights into communication. Coaches will find it useful for recognising repeated patterns in client narratives and for helping clients understand the roles they may unconsciously play. It remains a valuable tool for enhancing self-awareness and communication.

Key Takeaways:
1. Identifying common psychological games and their emotional payoffs
2. Exploring ego states and communication breakdowns
3. Facilitating Adult-to-Adult interactions to shift unhelpful dynamics